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Having a Social Life

In  this  life  we  may say  that  the one  who stands  alone  is  stronger  but  how  far  do  you  think  about being  alone  in a  world  where  team  work is the in  thing.  Today  i  sat  down  to  look  back  and  see  the  buildings  around  and imagine if  anyone  could  lift  a  stone  alone  and  build  it.  So  this  brought  the  attention  of  our  theme  today  which  is  SOCIAL  LIFE.

Having  this  life  is  as  simple  as mingling  and  sharing  ideas  and thoughts  which  we  all need.  We  need  fresh  air  to step  out  of  the  curve  of  life  and  have  a life  of  meeting  different  people  and  living  the  best  life  that  we  can  afford.Many  are  the  times  life  hits us  with  a  hard ball  and  eventually  we  fall down  but  when  we  have  friends  who  are there  to  make  us  smile  we  forget  the  tears  in  our  eyes  and  give  our  best. Friendship  is  by  choice  and  many  friends  will  never  be  saints  but  if  they add  value  in  your  life  then  that  is  enough.  Jesus knew  that  judas would  betray  him  but  he  used wisdom. My  point  is  simple  friendship  and  a  social  life  helps  you  see  beyond  the  walls  of  life. Below  are  the  gains  of  having  a  social  life:

  • No  stress
  • Living  your  life
  • Learning  new  cultures  and  life styles
  • Learning  to  appreciate  the  beauty  of  life
  • Having  wisdom
  • Being  strategic
  • Being  open-minded
  • Looking  beyond  the  box  of  life
  • Learning  to  experience  new  things

These  are  few  benefits  that  we  get  in  life.  My  main  aim  was  to  open  your  eyes  and  have  a  social  life.Whatever  you  do  in  life  learn  to  appreciate  life  and  live  it  with  a  smile.A social  life  isn’t  about  having  friends  but  taking  the  burden  of  life  through  conversations  that  build  and  help  you  grow  as  a  person  and  able  to  live  with  peace  with  the  society.

The Fruits Of Labour

In  this  life  we  live we  are surrounded  by  many  dynamic  events  that shape  our  perception  and increase  our  credibility  on  how  we  perform. Back  in  the  days  people  had  the  ideology  that  since  they  have  someone  in  a  high  position in a  government or company. They  had  a  chance  to get  the  position  they  wanted  without  earning  it  on  a  right  full  position  but  through  corruption,  intimidation  and  threats.

Today  those  acts  are  now  termed  as  impunity  and  their  many  consequences  like  jail  terms.  People  have  become  educated,either  formally  or  through  experiences  that  have  shaped  their  mode  of  thinking  act  way  to  air  their  arguments  Corruption,  intimidation and  threats  are slowly  being killed  by  justice  for  the  just  and  the  culprits  facing  dire  consequences  that  have  major  negative  implications.

No one wants  nonsense  or  someone  who  hasn’t  earned  their  sweat  because  they  promote  impunity   and  take  away  the  great  potential  in  the  minds  of  great leaders.  Hard work  has  many  fruits  and  below  are  some  of  them:

  1. It  brings respect  from  both  inner self  and  society
  2. Trust  by  society
  3. Reliable  to  perform
  4. Self  esteem
  5. Success in  all fields
  6. Innovative  minds
  7. Justifiable character
  8. A leader
  9. A  professional
  10. Champion

These are  the  main  importance  of   having  your  own  hard work  giving  fruits  that  you  can  never  regret  but  it  can  be  appreciated  by  all.


ADVICE

  1. Work  hard  and  earn  your  reward
  2. Fight  corruption,  impunity  and  nepotism
  3. Refuse  shortcuts
  4. Be yourself
  5. Present  a  positive  image
  6. Love  to  do  good
  7. Promote  justice
  8. Be  a  model  of  success and hope
  9. Appreciate  your hard work
  10. Give  the  society  the  best  fruits  from  your  heart

The Power Of The Mind

The  first  baby  step  is  the  most  important  and  most  memorable  points  in  anyone  who  has  a  toddler  in  the  lives.  In  the  mind  of  this  young  one  they  wonder  if  they  can  reach  to  the  other  side  of  the  table  without  falling   or  actually  getting  hurt.  The  young  toddler  always  has  doubts  and  when  they  stumble  they  fall  at  once.  Eventually  this  young  angel  makes  it  to  the  other  side  and  smiles  as  they  have  succeeded  their  first  obstacle.

 Life  is  a  journey  that  only  ends  when  someone  looses  their  precious  lives. It  is  easy  to  say  that  you  can  get  what  you  want  but  is  hard  to  actually  do  what  you  say  in  a  short  period.  Just  like  a  toddler  we  doubt  if  we  can  get  to  the  next  distance  without  actually  falling  down  and  getting  hurt.  Patience  and  determination  are  the  key  facts  to  achieve  that  goal.  All  in  all  is  starts  with  our  thought  and  how  with  what   we  feed  it  with.  Expectations  of   life  can  be  high  or  low  but  your  thoughts  can  be  the  major  determinant.  When  Isaac  Newton  discovered  gravitational  pull by  simply  sitting  down  aimlessly  under  a  tree  and  eventually  being  a  legend  on  something  anyone  could  claim  to  also  know  but  yet  no one  took  the  first  step.

Our  minds  determine  our  future  it’s  until  you  be  optimistic is  when  you  shall  achieve  that  dream  or  goal  of  life  that  may  seem  so  far.  No  one  could  believe  that  Martin  Luther King  JR  when  he  said  with  his  optimism  about  a  black  man  leading  the  nation.  Years  later  after  his  demise  President  Barrack  Obama  became  his  word of  hope  to  those  who  wanted  democratic  change  on  race  leadership.  It  all  started  with  his  mind  and  how  he  fed  it.  When  the  owner  of  virgin  Atlantic  Richard  Brandon  became  the  owner  and  entrepreneur  that  he  is  today,  no  one  could  have  admitted  his  success  in  life  because  of  the  sickness  that  always  threw  him  out  of  class  life  but  now he’s  a  force  to  reckon  with.

In  this  walk  of  life,  we  fight  battles  in  our  mind  to  either  accept  or  reject  the  consequences  of  our  actions.  Time  passes  and  eventually  we  look  back  with  a  smile  and  be  grateful  for  the  hard work  and  the  determination  that enabled  us  achieve  our  success  in  life.  Success  starts  with  you,  so  train  your  mind  and  feed  it  with  positive  thoughts  and  you  will  achieve  all  your  goals  and  dreams  with  a  tear  of  success  and  achievements.

Success to  all  and  train  your  thoughts  positively!!!!

Beauty Of Success

In  life  we  always  want  to  have  something  to  put  on  the  table  but  the  struggle  to  get  it  is  what  can  put  us  down.  A  cleaner  wakes  up  very  early  in the  morning  to  fetch  for  their  daily  bread.  The  cleaner  that  normally  climbs  on   the  building  in  which  they  are  working,  most  cases  it  can  be  above  10  floors  and  the  risk  is  higher  than  the  income,  yet  they earn  little  compared  to  the  risk  they  undertake.  A  security   takes  a  higher  risk,  because  they  are  securing  an  organization  or  business  and  their  is  never  a  guarantee  if  their  life  will  be  spared  when  a gun  robbery  starts  and  also  in  most  cases  they  won’t  see  tomorrow  alive.  At  the  end  of  the  day  all  the  characters  i  have  touched  on  must  go  home  with something  to  give  their  families.

            Education  may  not  be  affordable  to  all,  so  for  the  less  privilege,  they  have  no  option  but  to  search  for  employment and  since  they  don’t  have  documents,  they  take  risky  tasks  and  get  low  pay.  Eventually  as  they  struggle  with  determination  their  families  get  something  in  the  table  to  consume  and  they  wake  up  and  go  work  hard  for  their  families.  Their  dress  code may  give an  image  of  poverty  but  to  them  they  are  happy  and  have  a  normal  life, since  they  have  no  need  to  take  loans or  high  debts  to  live  on  luxury  they  can’t  afford  but  they  appreciate  the  little  they  can  sweat  or  put  on the  table.

              The  bottom line  is  as  much  as  they  may  not  have  documents  to  show  their  intellectual  capability,  they  have jobs  that  may  not  be  pleasing  but  eventually  they  can  feed  their  big  families  and  continue  working  hard  for them  and  they  are  proud  of  their  hard work,  because  they  have  earned  what is  their  sweat.  In  life  if  you  don’t  have  the  privilege  to  get  the  grade  in  academics  or  have  the  best  certificate,  you  should  not  have  low spirits  but  look  beyond  the  wall  of  your  life  and  learn that  as  long as  you  work hard  in  life,  you  wont  ever  regret.  It’s  not  about  the formal education  but  you  as  a person  and  what  you  want  in  life. If  you  don’t have  the  chance  just  use  your  talent  and skills  and  eventually  you  shall  reach  to  your  dream.

          Most  of  the  most  influential  people  in  this  world  started  from  simple or  even  conditions  that  were devastating, but  through  hard work  and  determination they  were  able  to  achieve  their  dreams  which  seemed  a  million miles  but  eventually  became one  step to  their  achievement.  So  no  matter  the distance  to  reach  your  dream,  be  faithful  as you  work  in  whatever  field  you  find  yourself  and  don’t  give up  but  strive  higher  and  you  won’t  ever  regret  but  smile  as  you  get  the  rewards  of  your  hard work.

Growing Up

In this blog i will use what i learnt in my life and how it built me to thirst for success and never look back at where it all started but to where am heading even currently. Am hoping my life examples will help you understand how to battle your mind.

1. BABY STEPS

I can recall how many times am faced with situations that put me down, that i forget that before i become 1 year i was a toddler crawling trying to balance both legs. My mum would walk me slowly and i would stumble and fall but eventually i challenged myself and today i can say those baby steps have helped me realize what i want in life and make wise decisions. In life when we watch a child make their first steps we want to run and save them but they cry and refuse because they want to do it their selves because deep inside them they have a burning thirst to walk without support.

A child’s baby steps is not only important to the child but us because we can find it an important stage that shows growth and development in the mind of a child and their determination at a tender age. In life that is how we should deal with situations taking every step cautiously and confidently believing we can achieve what we dream or desire. Each step we make should be well calculated and planned in order to achieve our goals in life. We should not let negative circumstances chew our hope in being successful instead we should strive to be above and not below.

 2. FIRST CAR

In my teen days i was an enthusiast even today of driving to be more specific racing, inspired by Vin Diesel and late Paul Walker and Tyrese Gibson in Fast and Furious i started having a thirst to drive. At around 2005 my mum had bought her first new car it was a Nissan station wagon a very unique model in the country since it was among the first new models to venture the Kenyan Market. When it was bought around July 2005 mum was head over heals since it was a big achievement in her life and a dream she had to won her own car and drive to wherever she wanted. Earlier when i was a 3years living in the ghetto she had promised me to drive since i was a child and she saw that an empty promise would make me to stop bothering her but little did she know it was a thirst that grew so much that today am among the fastest drivers ever and build a brand from it through speed and moderation.

How i started might sound foolish but it all started in 2005 when she had bought the new car. When i saw it i was so anxious and excited because i would like other kids who had cars and i would feel a sense of belonging and most important DRIVE. However, all that was just a dream that was crashed with one remark,”YOU DON’T HAVE A LICENSE SO YOU CAN DRIVE.” yes, i know how you also feel, tears came down my eyes and my heart was so crashed that i never ate and when to sleep. Each day she drove to and fro my heart become more crushed until one day i decided enough is enough. We used to live in a 2 house bedroom my parents room was direct opposite ours and for the kids we were squeezed since the room was small and couldn’t accommodate us  as we wanted however we had adjusted well.

Each day they went to bed I’d follow them to bed pretending am going to sleep so that i could see where they each played the cars keys. I did it for one month without any suspicion created and this become an addiction with one goal to drive because it was what i wanted. My mum’s earlier remark was very true i couldn’t drive because i was a minor without license approval by the government. I built a craving for driving and each day we could board a public vehicle i would sit and the drivers sit and ask questions related to cars and i made sure i knew both manual and automatic cars and the dos and donts of driving.Due to this i took a driving book from my dads books so that i could learn and build myself up.

After all the basic my plans began to avail slowly, i used to wait until they had gone without the car and then take the car keys and drive. My dad used to talk about 3 Point turn and that was my first step until i became a pro. Later that year we moved to a new county where i was limited to privacy since it was an apartment. My parents used to park close to a place where the caretaker needed to open a lid and check the water level but due to the car being on it it was an obstacle. So he came and knocked and told me to remove the car, at first i had my doubts due to the new environment but i became confident and eventually moved the car. Since my parents never used to drive a lot i the car’s battery was always low and i used to be told to take it to be charged. But after the interest i had built a new about jump starting cars and driving.

On one Saturday evening i was washing the car and since it was late, i had to park the car where the following day it won’t be an obstacle to me. I did so and next morning my mum woke up to a shock since she found the car at a different position. When she inquired i played dumb and my dad tried to move the car but was also in shock due to the position.After they had given up i told her to give me the keys and open the gate,in 3 seconds i was outside the gate driving backwards. They were speechless only a few neighbors new about my driving skills. So i made her make a choice in dilemma that if she doesn’t accept me to drive where there are no cops outside the highway i would be stealing her car. She had no option in real sense i would but i had to have a stand.

From my story i have a few points you should keep in mind:

  1. Never say never
  2. Don’t limit your potential
  3. Fight every form of negative spirit
  4. Be determined in what you want
  5. Be a risk taker
  6. Challenge and take the extra mile
  7. You are your own friend or foe
  8. Believe in yourself
  9. Be passionate in all your activities and so it for a good course.
  10. The first step is the most important
  11. It’s not how you start but how you finish
  12. No one can understand you, but YOU

Look at me now!! Life is a journey don’t stop dreaming and building yourself.

Take life easy

In  life  there  are  ups and  downs,  many  are  the  times  we  are  faced  with  the  real  effect  of  a simple  misunderstanding  and  solving  it  becomes  hard  and  at  the  end,  a  solution  should  be  found  or  it  erupts  and  affects  everyone  both  involved  and  not  involved.  As  much  as  we  may  shy  away  from  it  or  pretend  all  is  well,  we  become  victims  of  our  fears  and  eventually  we  become  patients  to  stress  and  fatigue.  Its  can  take  3 years to  build a  building,  which  has  a  strong  foundation, but  just   one  blast  from  a  bomb  or  air crash  can  cause  the  stones  to  fall  down in  pieces.

The  heart  is  a  small  unit  in  our  bodies  that  controls  all  the  functions  in  our  bodies.   When  someone  wrongs  you, it’s  normal  to  feel  hurt  and  want  to  fight  back  but  instead  we  withhold  all  the  pain  and  eventually  we  become  so  bitter  that  we  can’t see  the  good  of  someone  but  plan  to  pay  back  so  that  we  can  become  even.  Planning  is  an  investment,  if  you  plan  to  revenge  the  rewards  is  sorrow  and  misery  and  that  is  the  NAKED  TRUTH  that  whether  you  love  it  or  not  you  just  have to  either  forgive  because  it  will  haunt  you.

Pain  means  a  physical or  emotional effect of  a scar caused  by  suffering  or  illness.  The  issue  brought  by  pain  is  the  act  of  keeping  issues  in  our  hearts  and  pretending  all  is  well.  Bitterness  is  resentment (a feeling of deep and bitter anger and ill-will.)  and  the  results  is  heart  issues,  ulcers,  revenge  and  so  much  more  that  only  harms  our  tender  hearts.  When  you  carry  someone  or  when  you  are  bitter  with  anyone  you  become a  victim  of  misery  and  no  matter  how  much  you  keep  smiling,  the  truth  is  that  you  have  unresolved  issues  which  MUST  be  attended  to.  When  you  start  a  bonfire  and  you  forget  to  light  it  off,  it  spreads  and  burns  anything  that  is  ahead  and  eventually  it  destroys  a lot  of  property,  hence  it  leaves  nothing,  the  same  way  it  was.

Anger  can  never  resolve  anything  but  cause damage  and  destruction  just  like  uncontrolled  fire  which  spreads  and  leaves  nothing  well  but  destroyed.  As  many  people  wrong  you  in  life  is  better  to  admit  to  yourself  that  you  are  hurting  and  then  you  peacefully  resolve  the  issue  but  don’t  procrastinate  issues  because  the  results  are  always  bad  and  worst  case  scenario  it  may  cause  a  never  ending  pain  and  revenge,  when  simply  taking  and  overlooking  all the  good  and  covering  it  with  anger. The   Naked  Truth  of  life  is  that  many  times  life  won’t  be  about  smiling  and  having  jovial  days  but  sometimes  it  will  be  a  dark  cloud  with  no  hope  but  a  wall  ahead,  people  will  always  hurt  us  because  they  are  humans.  Humans  aren’t  perfect  so  don’t  always  expect  them  to  understand  you  but  learn  life  is  about  taking  it  as  it  comes.

Learn  to  let  go  or  forgive  and  moving  on  but  don’t  always  want  to  get  even  with  anyone.  The  more  your  are  bitter  the  more  you  are  taken  back  10  steps back  and  that  will  affect  you  always.  It’s  not  an  option  to  forgive,  JUST  FORGIVE!!!!!

Heart Affair

The  first kiss never fades from our hearts, just one more kiss is what we desire to smile again, all this our memories for the first day our hearts skip a beat, our legs ready to fly to the sky, our eyes open like a rose flower and our minds whirl like a tornado. We never want to let go off the place,time and person that made us learn this new mouth to mouth resuscitation.  As years blossom our first love,says goodbye and no rose or promise can fade from our gentle and life full hearts pounding for the next moment, Just to see them again.

Years pass and we meet new people,trends change and so does the affairs of the heart,  that smile turns to agony and that kiss turns to bitter lemon, our thoughts linger as we search for that second  chance to smile again and hear those promises that we first accepted heard when we knew nothing about love but to our disappointment  those are just cherished memories that will always be treasured in our hearts till we part with life.

Down the alter we exchange vows for better or for worse we declare, our legs jumping, our minds flashing and our hearts beating for this person with the keys to our hearts. After the honey moon comes the dramas of life,fighting and abuse become our new way of life,  tears on the sidewalk and we sit to remember how it all began. ” No going back!”  we promise ourselves but tied to the alter we become slaves of a promise which can’t b broken easily by pen and paper. No more smile no more love just misery that covers our small fatigue eyes,veins coming out like a person high of steroids, our heart beats faster as we are rushed to the doctors parlor.  Knock knock reality dawns!!!

It’s easy to say “I DO”  but is hard to maintain those words, love isn’t roses until you decide to always water it with commitment, responsibility,trust and real love. Divorce and separation shows our weak points and also why we were blinded by our gentle hearts.Promises will always be broken and tears will always have to drop. You can decide to cry or stand firm and face your fears with the one who accepted you for who you were or you can run and be a fool of love.Whatever choices you make,remember it’s an invest,the returns could be a court order or happy marriage.Happily ever after are just fairy tales and not realities.They never say how many times you will want to let her or him go.Choices must be strategic and promises must be maintained through ups and downs.

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